Couples therapy can be very intimidating for a couple who is in distress. I have found that using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model for couples work has helped couples reconnect to one another and to stop blaming each other for their conflicts. EFT focuses on the negative cycle that occurs between partners and puts the blame on the cycle, rather than either of the partners. 

The goal of couples therapy is to reconnect the partners. We do this together, by taking control of the negative cycle that has come between you. I will guide you to explore your feelings and needs more openly, and together you and your partner can rebuild a foundation of trust and intimacy. 

One of the best things about EFT is that it has years of research showing its efficacy with couples.  Studies show that 90% of couples in distress who complete EFT treatment report significant improvement in their communication and connection.  Additionally, about 75% of couples report “recovery” and no longer classify themselves as distressed after completing EFT.  Couples who have completed EFT report that the gains made during their therapy have remained with them even 5-10 years after completion.